Thursday, August 26, 2010

How to make sure that your child has wisdom.

Wake up to omnipotence transference(OT), the disease that stops much of America from becoming wise.
Wisdom is the natural destiny of every human brain. In a healthy upbringing it gets ingrained naturally. Enter the desire of most parents to realize their own unfulfilled dreams through their children and they take away the one key that opens the gates to wisdom.

The foundations of wisdom should be ingrained into the brain very early in life by developing the child's real wisdom potential.

Every child is born with two self images. It perceives itself as omnipotent and omnipresent. It starts with feelings that it alone exists. Even its mother it takes as a part of its own self. Very very slowly it begins to become aware that it is not alone. At the same time it begins to realize that it is not omnipotent. It slowly dawns on the child that it is helpless, totally dependent on its elders. Between the ages of 14 to 20 months it gradually becomes aware of being a separate entity. By this time it has also realized that it is powerless and a non entity. Right when it begins to give up these feelings it also becomes aware of the pleasures of life. The fact that it can move around. It can taste new foods. It can play all the time. It has the dotting affection of its parents. It begins to love it parents powered by it's own helplessness. It does not feel wanting in anyway. It begins to develop deep love toward its parents. It feels happy, loved and secure. It lives in the now. Its helplessness develops into a secure humbleness. With this healthy feedback the child is well on the way to becoming wise. Mother Nature is ready to hand over the key to wisdom to every child.

BUT MOST PARENTS TAKE AWAY THIS NATURAL KEY TO WISDOM FROM THEIR OWN CHILD AND STOP THE CHILD FROM BECOMING WISE.

Steps in the traditional human desire to see one's own unfulfilled dreams come true through the child. The child is ingrained with feelings of overconfidence. As the child has complete faith in the parents it begins to believe that indeed it is the best. This omnipotence transference * (OT) as in 'I am not all important but my child will be' creates two problems. It replaces the feelings of humbleness with feelings of phony overconfidence. This results in a life long journey of struggle for the child to prove that it is the best. This becomes a one way ticket for many towards unhappiness and depression. No amount of success is good enough. The struggle to best the Jones' starts soon.

The second big titanic shift that takes place is that the child who was perfectly happy in his helplessness and was beginning to feel humble stops to live in the now. Instead of enjoying and living in the present it slowly begins to live for the future. The current life does not matter. All that matters is the preparation for the future. It starts to fantasize about when it will grow up and become the best. So the present life is relegated into the back and life becomes a preparation for the future. Instead of enjoying and loosing itself in the now the child starts the life long waiting game. The present is no longer a life of unconcerned bliss. It becomes a concern for becoming the best in the future.

The key is to not try to fulfill one's own unrealistic dreams through the child. Instead show and nurture the child into becoming the best possible just like Tiger Woods dad developed Tigers talents through focused practice, practice and more practice. Develop the real potential of the child so that his confidence in his talents and his own self is 'earned self confidence'. And not a phony self confidence that creates a trophy self image that translates into a life long struggle to become the trophy self.


*THUS OMNIPOTENCE TRANSFERENCE DESTROYS THE KEY TO WISDOM THAT EVERY CHILD SHOULD NATURALLY OWN.

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