Tuesday, August 31, 2010

The factors of reality; Our current society is actually sub normal by the standards of Mother Nature, by the standards of the Christ, and the Buddha a

This secondary emotional hole is totally unnecessary.

I have no PhD so on what authority am I writing all these knols? On the authority of my own first hand experiences of being in and observing my own emotional holes. For me it is a been there, done that situation. I have gone through the fire and know inside out shyness, nervousness, depression, feelings of suicide, hating my own mother, being terror stricken of being separate and alone facing all these emotional holes. Especially realizing that there is a long and hard journey for me to come out of all this. And the frustrating part was that there are expert guides but mostly those who have studied these problems from the out side in. What do they know how it feels to be in these multiple holes. So I decided that I will observe and study my own climb back out. And even if others ridicule my ideas, insights and lessons I will still share them with all others, for I do not want people, trapped like I was, to keep struggling and struggling. I do not want even people who are so called normal to keep running after a trophy life. Having come out of my emotional holes I kept going to become wise. Now I want to show the world that becoming super normal can and should be the new normal. Our current society is actually sub normal by the standards of Mother Nature, by the standards of the Christ, and the Buddha and even by the standards of yours truly.

One of the biggest problems is that for most of us image is everything. We want to show off the best side of our personality. So when we are say nervous or shy. An extra worry is that others will know that we are shy and so we worry over and over that others will see our shyness and will ridicule us. Many times the worry of appearing shy becomes a much bigger problem than the shyness itself. More than the emotional hole itself the fear of being exposed to being in an emotional hole becomes the bigger emotional hole.

The way out of this secondary hole is to put the fear under the microscope of Contextual Mindfulness.. The first step is to realize that others look at your shyness and dismiss it as a social problem for you. But most people don't care one way or the other. They accept you as you are and adjust to your shyness. You give too much importance to them thinking of you as defective. In actual reality 99.99% don't care about your personality one way or the other. They don't even think of it twice. What they do care about is how you treat them. Thus this secondary emotional hole is totally unnecessary.

Always remember that no matter how extrovert or well adjusted a person is his bottom line, as that of everyone else is that he is unconsciously seeking love, warmth and security. Unless your emotional hole threatens his love, warmth or security he will feel comfortable with your emotional holes. Unless your emotional hole makes you violent and he feels threatened in anyway there is no way he will feel one way or the other about your image. On the contrary your shyness and nervousness will put him at ease and even make him feel good about his own level headedness. So observe by putting all these factors about the real issues of your secondary hole in contextual mindfulness.

So wake up to the factors of reality concerning your life in general and your irrational secondary fears of being observed and discovered as emotionally defective.
For most people who are trapped in an emotional hole their emotional hole becomes compounded by this fear that our emotional hole will be discovered and ridiculed.With the added and even more devastating emotional hole that others will know that we are defective. We are mortally afraid that others will know that 'I' am defective, my mind is defective, that my own being is defective.

That fact that you are aware of this problem shows that the real you, the real I is aware of this problem. The first thing to do is to realize that the I itself as we know our self, in all of us is not cast in stone. Our real I is our true self. It has no emotional holes. All emotional holes spring from our assumed self; our self image. Our self image is generated by the Emotional Brain Garbage ( EBG ) in our brains. It is like a foul smell is coming from my body. So what is the solution. The solution is to remove the source of the foul smell by taking a bath and wearing clean clothes. Similarly our foul smell that is generated by our foul emotions comes from the EBG in our brains. Thus even our brain is not really defective. The source is the EBG. So learn and take steps to remove the source of the foul smelling emotions.

This may take months or even years. But please do not get disheartened because time will pass anyway. And before you know it you will start feeling the difference. You will grind down your EBG powered emotional and physical brain structure gradually until one day you will wake up free of your EBG. Of course some may need one on one guidance. And still others may need medicine. These days there are such cutting edge drugs that even major genetic defects are compensated for.

But the first thing to know, understand and wake up to is that you do not associate the consequences of the EBG generated character traits of your self image as an innate part of you. Do not feel that the you, that which you know your self to be, is cast in stone. Because these character traits are part and parcel of your self image and the self image is a projection that is coming from your removable EBG. Once the power source of your self image is switched off the self image too will disappear leaving your true self to be free. Thus the phony self image will be replaced with the real you.

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